After hearing about the tough, competent feminist went into vapor lock over something a man said to her - said to her - I find this on the blog of a "Left-libertarian" SF author:
At this year's Fourth Street Fantasy Con, Lynne Thomas announced that Apex Magazine would put trigger warnings on stories from now on. That surprised me a little, but what surprised me more was a small group applauding with fierce partisan fervor, as though Fort Sumter had just fallen and the Confederacy would soon be free.I get the usefulness of warnings for fanfic and personal accounts on a blog. But magazines and anthologies provide a context: if a story doesn't fit the editor's agenda, why is it being published there? You should know that you'll find an Apex story at Apex, just as you'll get a Disney story from Disney.I can't imagine a warning that doesn't weaken the first-timer's experience. Googling "Lynne Thomas Apex Magazine Trigger Warning", I came on someone's link-sharing that included this description:[TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic Violence.] What I like best about this story is that it starts out in an unexpected way given what’s really going on (which you understand at the end).The person giving the warning has told you to watch for something that the writer hoped would surprise you.
Life is full of unpleasantness. We can either unsuccessfully attempt to control every one else so they never make us feel anxious, or ...and follow me on this...we can toughen ourselves up.
That last may seem difficult but it seems that self-discipline is scientifically the road to happiness.