Thursday, November 12, 2009

Well, it seemed like a funny idea, until people took it seriously.

Never underestimate the ability of human beings to act like jerks when they are give a little social approval and can be anonymous, but we knew that from the internet in the first place.

So, across Canada, it seems that young teenage students decided that it would be fun to play "kick a 'ginger' day."



The reality is that labelling someone a "ginger" or some other term means that they are different, the "other", less than deserving of full respect.  It also permits the majority to build a group identity by identifying as not being that kind of person. 

When I was that age, I got the nickname of albino and the associated disrespect.  My solution was picking out one offender and threatening to beat the shit out of them.

Problem solved.

The boys cast stones at the frogs in jest, but the frogs die in earnest.

 - Bion (as quoted in Plutarch)

On the other hand Update:  Apart from the capacity of people to be idiots, South Park is just plain funny.

I also liked this redhead's response to "Kick a Ginger" Day, i.e., "We're psychotic, we're easily angered and we're unlucky for others....bring it on." 

I also take very seriously her call for an SPF 100 suntan lotion.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

Good for you.

cg said...

Parents should hang their heads in (deep) shame when their children are willingly influenced by a cartoon character.

Peter Sean said...

"Parents should hang their heads in (deep) shame when their children are willingly influenced by a cartoon character."

Or singers, actors, politicians, television shows, movies, etc.

I mean, people who are influenced by Alec Baldwin have a lot to be ashamed about.

Peter Sean said...

Good for you.

Two points about that approach to group bullying.

First, pick out someone you think you can take.

Second, do it publicly and without a warning because the reputation for being unpredictable pays dividends.

Once people realize that there is a penalty to be paid for such "fun" and that being a part of a group won't prevent them from being singled out, it usually stops being "fun."

I don't know if I would have given the same advice in this enlightened age if I had a son, but I have daughters so the issue has never come up.

Anonymous said...

I was assaulted and picked on by two girls in sixth grade. They were jealous of me as I was a new girl and all the boys liked me. I must have been asked to go steady by ten or so boys. I was chased by these 2 girls and I wondered what to do. I simply ended up telling them to leave me alone and in my hitting them back (on the back) they never bothered me again.

I never went to anyone for advice on this- I simply handled it. It was over in maybe 5 minutes or less.

I am sorry but you never tell your kids to let it go on- and yes you do let them handle it. However in today's climate- what to do? I agree in public is good which mine was, and I think a teacher should know, after the fact.

I got so much attention that year because somehow all the boys liked me. I never understood why at the time. And thank God I went through that because I really had to flex my social skills that year.

I look forward to see what penalty comes to the person who started that idea on kick a ginger. I am shocked and shocked again.

Do we have to start teaching diversity in the first grade now?Kindergarten? Do we have to start to teach about kindness?

But why should I be surprised when I had to open a thread about Kindness on Catholic Match where adults can't get along.

Maybe.

This is From "anonymous" who probably will not be there tonight because I am out not feeling well. I hate to miss.

Anonymous said...

I forgot to mention the most important fact. One of the two girls chasing me had bright red hair, freckles and I cannot recall her eye color. she probably had green eyes.

My assessment at the time was that this girl was unhappy in her life and was taking it out on me.

cg said...

"Or singers, actors, politicians, television shows, movies, etc."

Of course, I agree, but sheesh--ugly stick figures?

 
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