Deus Est Caritas in the popular mind.

Maggie Gallagher has a nice take on the recent encyclical.

I like this part:

The classic Catholic answer is to say that love is an act of the will. We can choose to act in loving, faithful and benevolent ways even if we do not particularly feel like it. In this sense, love can be both commanded and promised.

But that is not enough for this pope, because it is not enough for the human heart. Nobody wants to be loved as an act of the will. Yet the promise of eros is notoriously unreliable. One currently popular solution is to downgrade our expectations, to pretend that our sexual desire is merely bodily appetites, "enjoyable and harmless." "An intoxicated and undisciplined eros" is not ecstasy; it is instead "a fall, a degradation of man. Evidently, eros needs to be disciplined and purified." Evidently.

A worthy insight. I can't count the number of women I've met who have divorced their husband because they "grew" and he didn't. They didn't feel love, so they weren't in love. In the 21st Century, love is a feeling and feelings come and go.